A word about pain

It is your teacher. You are meant to experience equal potential for pain and joy in this lifetime as a human being. So use your pain to inspire you to practice whatever it is that allows you to put things into perspective and feel whole and balanced again--yoga, cooking, running, writing, meditation--whatever floats your boat and gets you back to an equanimous state. Meet yourself in the middle and stop giving yourself such a hard time about life's details and your subsequent feelings because of them. If for some reason you lose your balance and you find yourself ignoring that thing that makes you feel whole, just come on back and resume your practice. The door is always open, and no one is there giving you a hard time for being away except yourself. 

Instead of letting your pain run your show and being a victim of your own self-imposed suffering, remember that you run things. You're in charge of your reactions to life's happenings and you're also in control of changing your energy in the present moment. So instead of wallowing in sadness, anger, judgment, mistrust, etc--flip the switch and do something different, something that lifts you up instead of thinking that drags you down.

If all else fails, just tell yourself that it's all perfect and trust that you're exactly where you are, feeling exactly what you're supposed to be feeling for a reason that will reveal itself later. Everything always falls into place.